Embracing Interdependence — Dependence has become a dirty word. We don’t like to think of ourselves as burdens, as needing assistance, or as needy period. Our culture has taught us to herald the tale where the individual needs no one to rise above the odds and attain wild success all on his or…

The gift of presence — of being fully emotionally present, in the moment, with another human being — has been on my mind a lot lately. As a therapist, it’s a huge part of what I bring to my work with clients. Presence is a powerful influence that can facilitate…

When I wrote Part 1 of “The Upside of Fighting,” I used the example of a mother and child to explore how the process of rupture and repair can serve as the basis for building a solid partnership. But I also wanted to look at how this can work in…

Fighting with your partner is the pits! Being at odds can bring up feelings of extreme discomfort, fear, and pain. But it’s also part of the partnership jam. Sometimes we just don’t see eye to eye with our partners and sometimes we hurt each other’s feelings. We forget to do…